She could be the sweetest most complimentry girfriend Ive ever had, always told me how much she loved me and how happy she was to have me etc. But she would frequently get very upset over small things and become childish in trying to solve them, context normally that I didn’t care enough or only saw her as temporarily in my life. Would be difficult then 2 days later like nothing ever happened. Would constantly tell me I didn’t love her. Apparently because I didn’t buy her enough flowers etc – I did alot for her looked after her and bankrolled most of her life, but not enough. Sex was great, maybe became routinely great, then she would complain because I didn’t chase/seduce her enough so would refuse me sex, got confusing.
This is really the best thing you can do. Me and my girlfriend are perfect for eachother. She has BPD and im a caretaker who always puts everyone elses needs before my own because thats what i was taught as love as a kid by how my parents acted towards eachother.
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I attempted to call and text her but she had blocked me from contact. I tried to call family and friends to another text of a threat to call the police if I did so again. I mean if you want my honest opinion, I think everybody has some sort of issue or issues going on lol. So whether you have BPD or not isn’t the answer you need. The answer you need is to figure out what you’re doing that’s causing problems.
She does live me and I see now that it’s a mistake. Any tips or advice would be amazing please. I’m not letting the fact that I still have feelings for her control my life, but I kind of did let it do that for http://www.onlinedatingcritic.com/ almost 3 weeks at one point. Basically at this point I just wanna try and be her friend from now on (if that’s as far as I’ll ever be able to go) because she said she wanted things to go back to normal.
What is the difference between being a sociopath and a psychopath?
Now I’m thinking she purposely got pregnant in order to keep him. She also told me some other stuff which helps her fit the BPD profile. She goes to therapy and claims she is bi-polar.
On the first day she asked me when i am going to marry her i said lets speak to her parents and start things for the wedding. Then after few days she said that she is not interested in marrying me and said that she got engaged to some one else. After some time she itself contacted me and said she called off the engagement. Again after that she started saying that she is not interested in marrying me. i dont know what to do left everything behind and came here for her now i am in so much confusion.
I’ve heard that one multiple times from ex’s and I never understood it at the time. They WANT you to get aggressive and heated when they’re pissing you off. As someone with BPD, I agree that I’m not looking for someone who is trying to act like Prince Charming. It feels like you’re treating me as something breakable and “OMG I have to be SO careful.” I would rather be treated as an actual person. Also, being patronizing isn’t a good idea either.
I read somewhere to let her come to me…if she never does, I never stood a chance anyway. I’ll spare you the details of my 1st ever BPD encounter. You’ve done an OUTSTANDING job relating to nearly EVERY aspect of my relationship with her. We dated for about a year and she wound up dumping me. I could see the writing on the wall at around the 8 month mark. It’s just my opinion, but I think she kept me around until she found someone else.
You tell her it’s not okay and if she does it again, she can take a hike. By allowing bad behavior, you’re actually making these women worse, believe it or not. Dante Nero talks about this all the time. I saw her crying after i turned around after saying goodbye. I know i need to let her go and focus right now on improving myself, so i can be ready for her or another girl. I know she didn’t get back to her ex, but still being rebound is kinda depressing.
How Psychopaths Operate in Intimate Relationships
And since mainstream dating advice is horrible these days, people get more and more lost. I’ve had so much trauma and I was raised by a nutjob I just can’t get past it. And I’m not talking about romantic relationships which I cannot keep those either. My longest relationship was three years long and I probably cheated on him more than 3/4 of the time. And still today 7 or 8 years later I cry about him.
If your new boyfriend talks about his ex or the hurt caused by his last relationship, he may be looking for kindness and for someone to listen to him openly. If he tells you that he broke up with his ex, but things are amicable between them and they are still on speaking terms, it is probably a sign that he is mature. Just because things didn’t work out in his past relationships, doesn’t mean that the same will happen with you. And if things don’t work out he won’t talk badly about you to other people.
She flew off the handle over some stupid shit last year around this time and we didn’t talk for 6 months. She dragged me back in and this time I started out with a totally different mindset and it worked for a while. She slowly started to pull away and I didn’t understand. Ok first of all if you move in with someone that has BPD prematurely, you’re just setting yourself up for a bad situation. If she’s feeding your ego and telling you that you’re perfect, you only have yourself to blame if you let these words influence you. If you have your ego in check, then you’ll tell her ‘hey nobodies perfect so don’t tell me I’m perfect anymore.’ So for me, I’m just very genuine and real.
I started to think maybe it was my fault so I went to counseling, read several books, and even got a life coach. She begged me for a second chance, and I gave it to her. Within weeks her old abusive ways returned.
Our moods shift in parallel to her smile or frown. It’s purely a matter of willpower that keeps us in touch with our family and friends because, if truth be known, he or she is the only person we want to be with. Just days later, Gomez asked her fans to show compassion for Hailey, after the Only Murders in the Building star was involved in alleged social media drama with Hailey and Kylie Jenner last month. Then I also thought that I am grateful that he showed me what is unacceptable behavior. I can’t just stay outside his door all night, I must be reasonable and considerate of his feelings.